Who's Right, Who's Wrong

There are usually “two sides to every story”, depending on how many people involved, it could be more. How many doesn’t really matter, it just adds more “sides of the story.” The problems begin when you hear only one side from the person talking to you. You’re not hearing from all involved. But we still weigh the information because we believe in the person telling us. Well, someone believes in the other person’s story, too! So who’s right or wrong? Do we actually have all the information we need to form a conclusion? Sometimes, the evidence is shown on the person’s face or property. That’s a pretty strong argument for who was abused. Verbal abuse and the like are harder to see. I’m just saying don’t always think you’re heard everything if you haven’t heard the whole story. Somewhere in-between is the truth. I still believe that a lot of problems we still with, starts within. It’s just easier to blame someone else for our own faults.

Separate and Go

A young person told me that sometimes in relationships one partner can’t talk about some matters of the heart with the other. So they find someone else to talk to. It could be dangerous, if you’re not careful. We really don’t tell our partner for fear it will hurt them or cause problems. Love refuses to cause pain it should be the tool to communicate openly and freely. Unfortunately, we don’t use love unconditionally. We keep the one person we wanted to share life with, out of our lives. We would rather keep the peace than be honest and truthful. That’s not giving our mate much credit. We don’t think they are that mature or capable of handling the “hard stuff.” Instead, we just continue to put up with “it.” Sooner, if not later, the two partners are heading separate ways. You can’t get back the time you had. Once it’s gone, it is gone. So many of us live a lifetime of unhappiness (fake) rather than face true happiness (Honesty).

Young folks have a lot going on in their heads. They deserve more credit than we give them. We just have to take time with them and listen. They have a lot to say.

Thank you for the compliments many of you have given me! You all have been really encouraging!

A Change is Gonna Come, If You Try

Today, I stepped out of my comfort zone. I am definitely taking a leap in faith. My greatest fear has always been rejection. I am facing this fear today by submitting my request to people I respect to share a part of my life with to read this blog. It will now be open to positive and negative comments. But the most important thing I have learned is, you never know if you don't try. You have to fail before you succeed. This is an opportunity to learn more about myself and my thoughts. It also gives me a chance to see what other people think. I always believed that we all are no different other than our complexions. We laugh, we cry, we have great expectations. We all want the best that life can give. We love our families, we want good jobs, trusted friends and want to go to heaven, peacefully. We make mistakes, some we regret, some we learn from. We can only strive to be better people starting from within. Look around you, the world is changing so fast it's unbelieveable. People are dying, suffering and having some hard times. We should be grateful for what we have than nothing at all.

Make It a Happy Ending Anyway

If it's a great movie or book you enjoy the ending. It's better when you know that it’s a happy ending! We all like winners! This includes the loser throughout the movie who finally wins at the end! That means so much! The kid who finally stands up to bullies, the employee that finally got recognized with a pay raise and/or promotion. The guy who finally wins the heart of the woman he always loved. I’m sure we could think of many more. Unfortunately, we live in reality and there are not many happy endings in life. We make the best of what is given to us. We can roll over and give up or we can stand up and fight back when we’re down. It’s up to us to decide what we want from life. It can get tough sometimes but we got to stay positive. Have a great 4th of July!

Don't Be Discouraged

There will be times when you might feel totally discouraged and unappreciated. There will be moments when no matter what you do for others it will never be enough, no matter how much you sacrificed. There will be days of emotional rollercoaster rides questioning your choices and decisions. Pick yourself up by the bootstraps, lift your head up and thank God for the blessings you already have and will receive. He will bring you through. Be patient and wait for Him. I know, He has never let me down. Everything happens for a reason. Pray for the wisdom and courage to accept it.

Never Give Up

I heard something extremely interesting on the radio this morning leaving church. A caller asked the MC to pray for her because she was close to committing suicide. He asked her why. “Because, her man moved in with another woman and her three sons and them with nothing,” she replied. The ex had turned off all of the power to the home, took the furniture and even the food. He had stopped making house payments so the caller was left to scrambling to keep what was left, which was the house. She asked for prayer and thanked God that she was still able to keep the house, but her ex and his new woman kept harassing her. This was driving her to suicide.

What I found puzzling was the caller. She was willing to give up her life because she was heartbroken. She did not think of the effect it would have on her four year old son. To me that was selfishness to the nth degree.

We concern ourselves so much about the success of relationships that we fail to see the millions of other blessings God has given us. The primary one is life. We are healthy, breathing and living. There are so many people suffering right now with terminal diseases, loss of limbs, loss of mentally capabilities and yet, we struggle with someone that doesn’t love us. Where are our priorities? I know, in the material realm.

Some of us are still dealing with relationships, past, present and future. Whatever the reasons for the good, bad, betrayals, careers first, strife and contention, major and/or trivial disagreements, we must find an equal balance to share our lives together. When it becomes an imbalance, the joy is gone and soon the love will follow.