Appreciate the Now

People come in and out of our lives. They are here to give us assistance, guidance and/or direction. Some of them give us love that we hope are permanent but usally temporary. We have talked about this before. Love is temporary even though we would like for it to last forever. But, if it stops coming from the one we do love, we can't stop loving ourselves. Too many of us sacrifice our self-esteem, confidence even independence to prove our love. Our world will not end because the love from another ends. All of us are better than that! It does not matter what we look like to them but it does matter what we look like to ourselves! And if we don't like the way we look, change!!!

It's Hard to Read Between the Lines

Sooner or later, you'll notice that she is pulling away. But during the meantime, she was being taken for granted. We guys really don't see between the lines. We think an apology, flowers and a I love you will keep the homefront steady. Our problem, our biggest problem is time. We always think we'll have another hour, day or month to make things right. What we sometimes have to offer is just not worth their time. Yeah, they might be happy at the time that you think everything is cool. It's a short time benefit without long term effects.

U-N-I-T-Y

Men & women see things differently, it’s our nature. At times, we will even disagree strongly about it. It depends on the dominant figure in the relationship. I believe that when the issue involves us collectively, we do come together. Unified, there is nothing that we cannot handle. Opposed, we will fall. Most of the time, the woman will win. How we handle our differences will depend on how greater the loss. In that case, who will be blamed for the failure? And where do we go from there?

Never Satisfied

Let's take this up another step. If you don't seem to ever get "it right", what does it take? And when you think it is "right", it is still not good enough. When will good enough be right enough? Why is there an excuse to constantly find fault with the other person, especially, when you're just as imperfect as the one you want perfect? Never satisfied!

Real Love is Unconditional

We continue to look for the right one even if they are under our nose. We wait for that feeling, that bolt of lightening, that knowing look that this is my future love. We get so infatuated that we ignore the red flags that pop-up. We can't seem to realize that we might be constantly critiqued or just not doing the right thing that we will never do the right thing in that person's eyes. We also might not realize that we are doing the same mess to our lover. We are not perfect but expect perfection in our better half. We all have issues and we need to get over them. Conditions may never be right for the lives we want but instead of working together, we indirectly work against each other. Love is unconditional which means we accept the faults, the imperfections. How many of us can say we love unconditionally? And really mean it?

2009

I didn't realize how fast time passed. It's 2009!!! It seemed that I have not gone a day without tearing up about my mom. I thank God everyday that this has made me stronger in faith. It hasn't been easy. But this experience is shared by many of us who have lost someone we truly cared about. Our loved ones and we will too, will go to a higher plain other than this earth. But, what about the loved ones that just simply moved away or out of our lives? That is another topic.

First Christmas Without Mom

Christmas is just four days away. The holidays are very different without my mom. I really miss her. She would always sang for me on our birthdays and was always a calm voice in stressful times. She taught us how to treat people with patience, respect and compassion. Yes, our lives are different because we are trying to practice these lessons. Merry Christmas, mom! We love you!