It sounds like you're feeling upset, and I want you to know I hear you. You mentioned that all I’ve done this morning was speak to you negatively from the moment we woke up until the afternoon. You also said that I do this every day and that I never give you credit or encouragement. I asked if you meant every day, to clarify if I’ve ever said anything positive. I understand you're angry with me, but I hope we can find a calmer way to discuss this. I get on your nerves because you think I criticize your driving habits, from car washing to detailing. I also know that you have the family’s best interest at heart. Believe me, I have the same love for you, that even when I’m no longer able to share my life’s journey, I sincerely want the best for you.
Did I take the time to ask how your day was? What did you have to deal with at work today? This contention was all about me. Did I consider how long you sat at your desk, giving your best performance and feeling unappreciated and stressed? We both know that you’re working with backstabbers and busybodies. Your carpal tunnel in both hands is due to constantly typing and hunching over your keyboard, checking for accuracy and grammar. You don’t need all this conflict at work and from me.
I realize it was my fault that I didn’t have a calm and respectful conversation. If I had, I believe I could have gained a better understanding of how we can truly listen to each other’s pain, especially yours, my love. I now see how you might react and respond to the tone I use towards you. The words I chose aren't what I truly intended to communicate. I’m truly sorry if I offended you. I love you.
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