One-sided Relationships

I expect to get in hot water over this because many people believe that love should be 100%. But you can’t get 100% from everyone including the person you love. Most relationships are lop-sided, uneven and unfair. But that’s life, too! Step back and be objective about past relationships. Thinking back, haven’t you noticed that whenever you fell in love with someone, you start by falling flat on your face? You love her, she loves someone else. So you begin the task of getting her to notice and fall in love with you. You are already trying to push the snowball uphill and you get tired pretty quick, but you don’t give up because you’re keeping hope alive. Wake up! Every now and then, you recognize and she recognizes that there is potential with the two of you. Both of you put forward the effort and once in a while it works out. But think, which one of you love the other more? Who learned the lesson from breakups and broken hearts? Can it be balanced enough? One thing is guaranteed. Any relationship is hard work and if you both intend for it to last, take the good with the bad. And if you want to give 100%, go ahead. If it doesn’t work out, don’t get all broken up and hurt someone. Nobody forced you, you made the choice.

What Does a Man Want?

Many of us have misguided ideas about future relationships. We want a model on our arms but at the same time we would like to have her as our “best friend.” How many of us have the privilege of being able to have at least one of those choices? How many of us don’t get either? We’re hardly able to find a partner more so than a mate. And we wonder why so many relationships end on sour notes. We get into them for the wrong reasons. Lust fulfills us for the moment, lust does it temporarily. But it’s a lot more than just an orgasm. We all know how long that can last, just not long enough. Guys, we can’t fool ourselves. Maybe we are in it just for the nookie, but keep it real, we want more than that. When we are in love, it does, feel good! We just don’t know how long it will last. Maybe some of us tend think that love is temporary.

Well, What Do We Want?

What do you want from the person? What do you want from the relationship? Look for it, find it and stick to it. Trust and honesty can not be bought. They are gained by communication and closeness. If you have a high work ethic, you would want someone to at least work full-time. And show a desire to work steady. Hey, you know exactly what I am saying. But that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Once, you let a liar get away with the “stretch” of the truth. It’s on! It’s easy for them to hold back. They justify it so well. The biggest setback is the liar thinks that you don’t listen and not smart enough to know what he/she is saying. All of us have some code of morals. For some guys, it’s not noticeable at all. But it’s there. We can’t continue to use excuses from childhood, environment, society and education to disrespect our women. Yeah, there are women that don’t respect themselves but let’s not try to figure that out. We all have problems, don’t complicate them.

Relationships Are Hard Work

Who learned the lesson from breakups and broken hearts? Can it be balanced enough? One thing is guaranteed. Any relationship is hard work and if you both intend for it to last, take the good with the bad. And if you want to give 100%, go ahead. If it doesn’t work out, don’t get all broken up and hurt someone. Nobody forced you, you made the choice. Get the hell out and move on!

Move On

A broken heart takes a while to mend. You can appear to behave foolishly when you are too wrapped up in love. You can’t act or think rationally. You become out of control. Jealousy sets in and you become a complete idiot. Hey! If you are not wanted, let it go! Jealousy complicates things. It can cause major problems with too many people. Sometimes, people can cause you major problems. Long-term problems. Your irrational action can mess you up. So don’t be stupid. Move on! Men have a longer recovery period than women after a break up. We take the break up to heart and want to retaliate. We can’t forgive as easily as women do. But none of us will forget.

The Basis of Love

Hope and love are strong words. They even have biblical connections. Do not play with them! Is your future love worth it? Can you see yourself with that person? Ask yourself. Is your partner pushy, domineering? Do you feel each time you see each other, you have to undergo an inspection? Are you critiqued about what you wear or how you behave? Marriage is not a game and you want a partner not a cell mate. When hope ebbs, soon will your love. I truly do not believe that any relationship is easy. How deep is that relationship? Was it built on the curves, the hardness, and the softness? The image looks great for now. How important is the image after several years when gravity and age comes? How deep is your maturity, more importantly your love, to see pass that? I know if the loving is good and the body is right, you’re in it for the long run. At least, while it lasts. Then when the change come, what are you going to do?

In & Out Won't Work In This

Love is not an electric switch that you can turn off and on. It’s not that kind of action. Hearts are broken, feelings are hurt and wounds are deeply opened. People, be honest with each other, not abusive in anyway. Satan, the enemy, will use any deception he can find to destroy a loving relationship, even in the name of religion. But, if you are rooted in the love of Christ who strengthens you, your spirit will recognize deceiving spirits. But if the one you love justifies a reason for their action in the name of that spirit, respect it and move on. Remember, there is a time and a season for all things. God is good and merciful, all of time. In and out relationships, though at times, may seem destined for marriage, usually are heartaches and emotional roller coasters. They can do more harm than good.