Loving is Hard, Forgiving is Harder

Life is already demanding enough dealing with the business of survival. Add families and relationships to it and you can have some serious complications. We all know it, and if you are still living, you are still dealing with it. At some point, our emotions start to get the best of us when we open ourselves emotionally to someone we think will accept us as we are and we, them. Eventually, we get that feeling for the other person that we call love. We can only hope that they would love us as much. During all of these emotional roller coasters, we find that the love was temporary for whatever reason and then, we’re not in love anymore but left with a super heartache. Some of us are left with an emptiness, a void because we gave too much of ourselves to make that love work. This type of love is nothing compared to the loss of a loved one who passed from this world to the next. Keep in mind that there are different kinds of love and levels. There’s not enough room and time to get into all of that. I just want to keep it simple. Once we’ve gone through the breakups and heartaches, we start building walls and barriers to avoid future hurts. Those that are “successful” in still remaining in love find that staying in love is hard. It takes a lot of work to prove it, put up with it, and keep it. It takes more in forgiving to make that love work. How much can you forgive? It’s up to the persons involved. None of us are perfect, yet we think that being in love should be. So, if one of us makes a mistake and it shouldn’t have happened, it can be unforgivable. Our anger and pride will make us so blind and hurt that we forget that we could have been the one that made the mistake. That’s what we do. When we get hurt, we become hell to live with or stay in love. Hairline cracks become valleys and it’s hard to cross. Some of us are not willing to go the extra mile, it might show a sign of weakness, submission. Instead of trying we give up and move on with the baggage becoming a new brick in our walls. Forgive? Some of our arguments are so stupid that we can’t even remember the reason for them. Yet, we are held hostage by our stupidity. Acts of distrust and betrayal can be unforgivable acts. The thought of sharing your most trusted love with an outsider can be abominable. But what did we do to cause it? What was going on in our life that was so important that we took that love for granted and ignored the symptoms? Future loves will definitely catch it. We men have had our hearts broken and carry baggage too! We look for honesty and trust but we wait to see if our love will be returned. Now we will go through the effort to get to know you and feel you. But we won’t waste your time and ours, if it’s not legit. Well, I can’t talk about all men, not even the older, mature ones, but I think there is a general consensus that stands behind what I say about this. Some of you ladies can’t believe it’s real so you balk and put us through tests. Is that necessary? I asked because no one likes to be tested. If you don’t want us, say so! Some of you will lose a good thing. When you do, don’t look back. Woulda, coulda, and shoulda won’t have any values. Now who will forgive you? In closing this entry, I want to say that love is a gift that we find and share. It is true that some people will reject your gift or won't appreciate it. But don't let that stop you. Love is a special gift that God has for us all to share. I don't think we would reject His love, but we do, when we reject it from each other. This is Advent for many religions and we should be especially patient, understanding, and loving more than ever. It was God's Unconditional Love for us to send His only son to be sacrificed so horribly by man to save us. I wish you all a peaceful, blessed and loving Christmas Season.