Keep in mind, no relationship is perfect. We're going to screw up. It's not intentional but somewhere along the line, we hit a plateau. It's like losing weight. The last ten pounds don't want to budge. So what do we do to lose the pounds? Experts say shock the body muscles with diet and exercise. In other words, when the relationship gets stagnant, we have to do something different to bring back the magic. Maybe the parties involved need to be more creative and free in expressing their appeal for each other. I can't tell you what to do. That's something you and your mate must be comfortable doing. I definitely will not say go to work with your mate to have quality time because that's a crock. Quality time is not sharing work experiences. That's like you are a mortician and your mate hates being around dead people but your business is booming and you don't have time to spend at home or with your mate. So your idea of quality time is now having your mate come to work with you? Lets get real! We are not children. My professing my love for you does not mean doing something that I don't like and getting rediculed by you because I'm not spending quality time with you! Is it another excuse for you to find to end the relationship?
Sometimes, we tend to find excuses for the things that don't work out for us. We tend to blame others instead of taking responsibility for our actions, which only elevates the excuses. This behavior also applies to standing up for what is right. We often remain silent and wait for someone else to take the initiative instead of holding ourselves accountable. "What's your excuse, now?" is about empowering ourselves to make choices that will help us feel comfortable and confident in our skin.
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Love is Temporary
Think about it! What do we do when we are rejected, turned down or kicked to the curb? We feel sorry for ourselves! Our world stops!! We will never love again. We were pressured to act accordingly because that's what proving love is all about. We can be patience for them but they can't be for us. So we stay in these relationships giving excuses why it's necessary to be there. We have the choice and really no one can force us to do what we don't want to do!! Yet, it happens everytime. We always back down, it's what we do. I am still a sucker for love. I still believe it is real and unconditional. I also believe that it is temporary so enjoy it while you can! If that person loves you half as much as you love them, then be honest and communicate. Hopefully, you both can have something to be proud of.
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